How to Bake the Sweetest Rainbow Cake You’ll Ever Eat
Sometimes it feels like my queer journey has come full circle.
And other times it seems like it’s come full cake.
Sometimes those things are one in the same.
In June we see so many companies take advantage of Pride month, capitalizing on our rainbows, our identities, and our love. But thankfully, that’s not what we’re trying to do. I just wanted some cake.
It’s been a few enlightening years for me. It took a long time for me to accept my identity as a queer woman of color. It took an even longer time to come out to my family and friends. And even then, it didn’t happen all at once. It rarely does.
Sabrina of Sabrina’s Dolci is someone I’ve known since I was 5 years old. Her older sister is my childhood best friend. I love their family like I love my own. They know that. Everyone knows that. But Sabrina’s sister was the last of my friends that I came out to. As my oldest friend, her reaction was the one I feared the most. Despite going to different colleges and hanging out in different crowds, once or twice a year we would have dinner and pick up where we left off as if nothing had changed. It was a beautiful constant to have in my life.
I thought I’d lose it.
Spoiler alert. I didn’t. Luckily, my queerness wasn’t a make it or break it revelation like it had been with some of my family and other friends. While I mourn the loss of the people who refused to accept me for who I am, I’m forever grateful to people like Sabrina and her family who’ve only ever cared about me, not their idea of me.
Asking Sabrina to make this specific type of cake, a rainbow cake for the month of June, has been my way to celebrate being me, and celebrating how far I’ve come. I’ve fallen in love and lost it, I’ve come to terms with my sexuality, I’ve accepted that I’ll never stop growing and discovering things about myself. And I’m not the same woman who was afraid to come out to her oldest friends. Instead, I’m asking them to celebrate with me.
Whether you’re part of the queer community, or an ally, or questioning yourself. Whether you get to eat rainbow cake or not – take the time to celebrate you and the people who stand by you.
By the way, the cake was delicious. Thanks Sabrina!
If you’re looking to make your own, here are some of the supplies and ingredients we used:
